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Happy Valentine’s Day to all who celebrate! I just love Valentine’s Day, as it is the only internationally recognized day in the year which celebrates love and all things that comes with it. Some people may say that in their relationships, “every day is valentine’s day”, although, not every day is set aside for couples all around the world to celebrate their love.
While Valentine’s day can be a very happy day for some, it can also be a very sad and triggering day for others who are either single, or in unhealthy relationships. For this reason, we here at Koloqua Dialogues have decided to share with you all tips on practicing self-love today, and every day. Romantic love may be coveted, but even that has a prerequisite of self-love to build a strong and healthy foundation for it. As such, continue below for 5 tips on practicing self-love in your everyday lives that will outlast the most romantic love.
5 Ways to Practice Self-Love
1. Understand, and Accept Yourself for All You Are
Self-confidence is probably the most sought after characteristic to exist, as it drives all others in a person. To be confident in oneself, one must first know and understand who they are and what they bring to the table, and then accept themselves for those same reasons. We live in a world which tells us certain aspects about ourselves are flaws, although, human complexities does not allow for flaws, as we are all different. So, the best way to fall in love with yourself is to accept yourself, and be assured in all it is you have to offer – physically, mentally, etc.
2. Recognize When to Make Changes in Your Life
After accepting yourself, it is important to recognize that not all your traits need to be kept. Likewise, it is just as important to recognize that not everyone in your life wants or needs to be kept. So, when you understand, love, and accept yourself, you then know your worth, your values, and what is needed to propel you forward. After all that hard work, why would you even want to keep traits, people, or situations that don’t want, need, or deserve to be kept?
3. Do the Things that Make you Happy
When you know who you are, you know what makes you happy. Some of those things can be small, trivial things, while others are big, grand gestures. No matter what it is though, doing a little bit of it daily, especially when you are feeling down, can change your entire outlook on life for that day.
4. Practice Self-Care
This is one of my favorite methods of practicing self-love. In a way, everything on this list is self-care, however, taking care of your physical and mental self is what the focus is here. By exercising, taking care of your skin, eating healthy, checking off your to-do list, and keeping in contact with people you love, you are practicing self-care, and thus making yourself less stressed and more happy.
5. Learn the power of “NO”
“No” is just a two letter word, but can be one of the most difficult to say. This is probably due to the perceived implications or consequences that comes with it. Although, it is a word that carries much power within it when used properly. Learn to say no whenever you feel uncomfortable with something. Say it when you do not agree with something. Say it when it benefits you. Say it just because it’s what you want to say. Too often, we are taken advantage of due to our inability to simply say “NO”! In the end, this takes a toll on our mental and physical health, leaving us with more than we can handle. So practice self-love today, and just say “NO”.